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Individual Therapy

Mary offers individual therapy to help you better understand the root causes behind your emotions and behaviors, while offering skills and guidance in your pursuit of growth.

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Relationship Therapy (Couples, Families, and More)

Mary provides relational therapy for couples, families, friends, siblings, and non-traditional relationships. This therapy focuses on understanding oneself and others more deeply, while improving communication of vulnerable emotions and core needs.

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Supervision

Mary is an AAMFT-Approved Supervisor Candidate who can provide supervision for MFT students in an internship program, pre-licensed clinicians working towards licensure, and licensed clinicians looking for family systems-focused supervision.

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Hello! I’m Mary

Licensed Therapist

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with over 10 years of clinical experience in the Philadelphia area. I am currently work in a private practice providing telehealth psychotherapy. My choice to get my master’s degree from Drexel’s couple and family therapy program was due to its focus on diversity, social justice, and training in the Person of the Therapist (POTT) model. Through my master’s education and beyond, I have provided in-home, in-school, and outpatient therapy to clients of diverse socioeconomic, racial, gender, sexual orientation, and cultural backgrounds; I work actively to make my services broadly accessible, while remaining culturally competent and humble with regard to specific individuals. My focus is first and foremost to really understand and connect with the person(s) in front of me, creating an authentic relationship foundation to build off of. I do my own therapy work to enhance my personal and professional experience, and I draw deeply from my own personal struggles and humanity to connect with others. I live with my partner and two quirky cats (these feline family members may occasionally jump into the camera frame to meet you too).

Mary as an Individual Therapist

Mary provides individual therapy for a range of issues, including depression, anxiety, relationship issues, grief and loss, life transitions, social justice issues, identity exploration, and more. She has multiple publications, with topics ranging from the Person of the Therapist Training Model to the unique experience of Black families coping with breast cancer. Mary’s worldview, in line with her marriage and family therapy training, encompasses the belief that relationships make and break us; they are the key components in our lives that shape who we are and how we view and respond to the world. Because of this, individual therapy involves significant exploration of

past and current relationships to understand ourselves, our motivations, our reaction patterns, and our core emotional needs. Mary is willing to get “down in the trenches” with clients, helping, guiding, and walking beside them through their struggles and successes. She strives to provide a balance of support and challenge, of insight and action, and of internal and external transformation. She believes that most people have the answers they need already; therapy is just a matter of discovering those answers together. Her style of therapy is integrative, drawing from various models to tailor therapy to the needs and character of her clients.

Mary as a Relational Therapist

Mary has provided relational therapy to couples of varying age, race, gender, and sexual orientation, romantic relationships in monogamous and non-monogamous orientations, sets of siblings, friends, roommates, and families with young, adolescent, and adult children. She retains in her relational work the key goal of creating a strong, authentic, and balanced connection with each person involved in the process. While similar in many ways to Mary’s individual therapy style, there are key differences in her relational therapy. With romantic relationships, Mary combines a mixture of sessions with the partners together and sessions with each individual, all to build insight (into self and others), prep and practice deep sharing and listening skills, and co-create new experiences together. For families with adolescent and adult children, therapy will focus on building a depth of understanding, practicing and improving vulnerable communication, and collaborating on problem-solving, all to reduce struggle and keep building trust and connection going forward. For families with young children, Mary provides a mix of teaching new emotions management and behavior change skills to the children, while offering new perspectives and parenting skills for caregivers.

Mary as a Supervisor

As an AAMFT-approved supervisor candidate, Mary provides supervision hours that count for both graduate students and clinicians seeking licensure. She completed her AAMFT-Approved 30-hour Supervisor Training Course in December 2020, and has about 3 years of supervising experience. Her supervising mentor is Dr. Harry J. Aponte, creator of the Person of the Therapist (POTT) model. This model, along with Family Systems Theory, provides the foundation of both her clinical and supervising approaches. Mary’s style of supervision mirrors her style of therapy, creating a safe, authentic connection with her supervisees to ensure a supportive, trusted supervisory relationship. She provides a keen focus on building clinical skills in line with Family Systems Theory, while blending in the POTT model’s emphasis on self-knowledge and use of one’s own personal experiences to enhance clinical work. This helps create clinicians who can see and enact change in the big picture of relational patterns and legacies, while also connecting and intervening deeply and personally with clients. For more clarity on Mary’s supervising philosophy and style, click on the button below to view the publication on the POTT supervision model she co-authored with Dr. Aponte.

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Testimonials

Clients

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I’ve been working with Mary for nearly five years, and it has been the greatest gift to have her as a partner in my mental health journey. My first experience with Mary focused on navigating long-term relationship challenges. She created a welcoming space for me and my partner to be vulnerable and honest in our work together. In many ways, it felt as though my partner and I were speaking two different languages, and Mary was an intermediary who helped to interpret the good intentions and love behind our words. With great patience, she taught us how to listen with empathy and communicate with care, which helped us to rebuild the foundation of our relationship. This would not have been possible without Mary’s guidance.

In the last several years, I’ve worked with Mary one-on-one to address a broader scope of issues involving anxiety, depression, processing trauma and family dynamics, and dealing with a lack of direction, both professionally and personally. In our appointments, I always feel that I have Mary’s full attention, and that she is listening to everything I’m saying before asking insightful questions that encourage me to think more deeply. Whenever I enter our appointments feeling as though my world is chaotic and that I’ll never be able to wade through my mental fog and anxious thoughts, Mary is a grounding voice and a warm presence, always helping me to sift through the perceived chaos and focus on the deeper issues. She has taught me concrete techniques for dealing with anxiety and has helped me work through some of the most difficult moments in my life, but she has also given me the space to grow beyond my trauma, to be more forgiving of myself, and to embrace myself as an imperfect person who is doing their best every day.

Mary has helped me grow in more ways than I could have anticipated, and I know that I will continue to benefit from our work together far into the future. She has helped me to achieve a stability in my life that would not have seemed possible several years ago. I am so grateful to know Mary, and it brings me great joy to think about the impact she must have on the many other people she has worked with and will continue to work with.

– Margarette R.

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My work with Mary began nearly four years ago. At the time, I was generally and acutely overwhelmed with anxiety. My decision to seek assistance was somewhat reluctant– I recognized my difficulties with insecurity, family, romantic partners, and work, but I was skeptical that anyone could assist with my particular situation.

Mary was an intensive listener, a quick learner, and continually challenged me to grow at the appropriate level of difficulty. Looking back, I see how she astutely and incrementally worked to deconstruct my avoidant intellectualizing and develop my dormant emotional faculties. She initially cultivated stability by counterbalancing my detrimental thinking patterns. From this stability, we worked to understand my core emotional issues. Through this exploration, she helped me see the genesis of my problems and their manifestation in the present. I am grateful that our work did not stop at the relief that comes with identifying the source of recurring problems. She has continued to push me beyond attachment to a narrative about my issues and to achieve self-reliance beyond therapy. She has also been very flexible and responsive to me by engaging in discussions about other practices, books, and research. Mary is a significant reason why I have achieved greater acceptance of my past and greater peace with my present. With a willing client, I believe that Mary has the capability to address even the most complex cases.

– Brian S.

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I have worked with Mary Ingram for the past five years. I cannot recommend her enough. Mary is compassionate and warm and listens without judgment while guiding you to see patterns in your life and why they occur for you. She works to help you touch the emotions underlying your behaviors on your own time and at your own pace. With her help, I have been able to understand and begin to heal my childhood wounds and live a more grounded and happy life. My depression is extremely well managed thanks to her help, and I am able to show up fully in my relationships in a way I could not have done before. Therapy with Mary has been a huge asset for my life and will be for yours too.

– Laurel G.

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When I first started working with Mary I didn’t know who I was. I was a chameleon who was willing to be whoever I thought other people wanted me to be. I listened to the critical voice inside my head all day long. I was beating myself up for not meeting other people’s expectations and for betraying myself at the same time. I was terrified to ask for help but was desperate for connection.

Mary’s empathy, patience, and kindness gave me the safe space to be honest and share things I had never told another person. She found the perfect balance between allowing me to go at my own pace and gently pushing me forward to grow. I never felt judged and knew that I had her constant support. She drew strengths out of me that I didn’t know were there. She taught me how to get out of my head and into my heart. Today, I like who I am and I have hope that I can continue to change.

– Jess H.

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I started working with Mary almost four years ago, and choosing Mary as my therapist has been one of the most fulfilling decisions of my life. I initially started counseling to address underlying issues I was dealing with that affected my relationship. As time passed, Mary and I developed a connection that was built on trust and a reassurance that we had created a safe space to share my emotions. She believed I had the insight deep down and challenged me to go inward and share my vulnerability with her in order to grow and heal.

Throughout my time working with Mary, she has and continues to help me navigate the grieving process of a monumental loss in my life, works to unveil the struggles and developed patterns from my childhood, and continues to be a significant advocate in my eating disorder recovery. She acknowledges the progress I’ve made and encourages me to keep pushing my comfort zone to reach the goals I have for myself and my life. She is one of the kindest and most genuine people I have ever met, and I’m so grateful for all she has taught me in our work together.

– Kristen K.

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I came to Mary struggling with episodes of rage, anxiety and hopelessness that were crippling my relationship with my partner and my toddler. Her relational style immediately connected with me, and I felt for the first time that a therapist was actually invested in me finding some path to recovery. I’ve never doubted her compassion or authenticity and that is coming from someone who does not trust others easily.

Mary has been instrumental in helping me discover my cptsd symptoms and how current situations trigger those symptoms. When I first came to Mary, I didn’t have any ability to have healthy confrontation with my partner. After working with Mary, I am able to have those difficult conversations without my brain shutting down or spiraling into an internal state of rage. I am able to think critically and self-analyze in the moment and communicate those thoughts to my partner. Mary provided a nurturing space for me to explore the parts of myself that I’ve always hated, and I am finally able to give those parts compassion.

– T. D.

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I have been working with Mary since 2018 and I feel very lucky to be a client of hers. She is a wonderful counselor who listens and responds with the utmost care and respect. She is skilled at structuring our therapy sessions in a way that aligns with my goals while simultaneously allowing space for me to process. She has helped me address a lifetime of anxiety by encouraging me to develop routines and strategies that suit me well. She has also been very helpful with connecting me to other mental health care providers in Philadelphia.

Mary takes time at the end of every appointment to ask about how our session felt for me, and if there are any adjustments she can make to accommodate my goals in our future sessions. I really appreciate this collaborative aspect of Mary’s therapy style, as it causes me to reflect on how to make the most of our time together. She has always been mindful of my limited budget and insurance constraints, and she welcomed me back as a client after a lapse in my health insurance coverage caused me to take a year off from therapy.

Additionally, Mary is very well versed in LGBTQ issues, and I have always felt safe confiding in her as a queer person with non-traditional values. She has instilled confidence in my identity and helped me be a better advocate for myself in all of my interpersonal relationships. I’ve learned so much about myself through working with Mary, and I’m grateful for the excellent care she takes in her profession. Mary is kind, welcoming, extremely professional, and I would recommend her without hesitation.”

– Alex N.

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“I have worked with Mary for several years regarding challenges with ending a relationship, dating, and social anxiety. Mary’s ability to absorb and understand what I’m saying, provide me with precise language to put to my thoughts and feelings, help me connect the dots, and give me so many new perspectives while also being one of the most non judgemental, validating, calm, and supportive humans is truly what has set her apart from any other therapist I have worked with. I have felt comfortable being vulnerable and honest, especially in times when I felt like a broken record and especially in times when my anxiety felt like it was keeping me stuck. There are many good therapists out there but I feel really fortunate to have found Mary as my therapist.”

– Jess L.

Supervisees

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Mary Ingram is such a caring person! She listened to what I had to say about any concerns I may have while telling me afterwards what I can do to become a better therapist. She gave me tips and ideas to use while practicing therapy. What she taught me is something I’ll continue to remember forever.

– D. F.

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Having Mary as a Supervisor was a very enlightening experience, as she allowed me to open up and engage with myself as a learner and new therapist in a way that felt very natural and authentic.

– Azaria C.

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Mary’s supervision was extremely Person-Of-The-Therapist based. She allowed the space for me to be vulnerable and comfortable discussing difficult topics.

– Christina N.

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Mary’s supervision was an oasis. She quickly created an empathetic, encouraging space that gave me the ability to comfortably explore my cases and myself as a beginner therapist.

– Lauren F.

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We called in to gather information for a high school career project and had the privilege of speaking with Mary. She was very generous with her time and provided extremely helpful information.

– Andrea C.
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Frequently Asked Questions

It's my first time in therapy; what should I expect?
There are many different types of therapy models, and many different types of therapists; it’s essential that you find someone you feel is easy to open up to, and whose sessions feel effective. Frequency of therapy can range from 2 times a week to 1 time a month based on your struggles, goals, and level of support needed. I think of therapy types in 2 main categories: one is “skills-and-tools-focused,” geared towards the present and future, and with the therapist giving direct feedback, “homework,” and instruction. The other is more “insight-focused,” geared towards understanding the roots (from the past) of current thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and with more organic, exploratory conversations to understand oneself and others better. Length of therapy varies with the therapist; with me, therapy lasts anywhere from 3 months to multiple years. I encourage individual clients to expect at least 12 sessions, and couples/families to expect at least 24 (twice as many people for me to connect to, understand, and work with).
Can I see you as an individual even though you're a marriage and family therapist?
Absolutely! Many of my clients see me individually to work on depression, major life transitions, anxiety, relational conflict, and a host of other struggles and goals. The key thing to know about working with me is that I will want to hear a lot about your past and present relationships, as I believe they shape how we view and respond to ourselves, our friends, family, partners, children, and colleagues. See the “Mary as an Individual Therapist” section for more information, or contact me with more questions using the contact form below!”
How do I know if you're the right therapist/supervisor for me?

It’s a tough thing to be totally certain of, and a good fit between therapist and client (or supervisor and supervisee) is a really important aspect of successful therapy. If you have already checked out the written descriptions of me and my style in this website, I would also recommend you get a free consultation with me. I offer free, brief phone or video consults to anyone who requests one. In a consult, I will ask a bit about what you are going through, what your goals are, and what you are looking for in a therapist. Then I will share a bit with you about myself, my therapy model and style, and specifically how I would work with you on your goals. From there, if we both decide we could be a good fit, then we set up a first appointment. I encourage clients to give a new therapist 3 sessions before deciding whether they want to continue, or to look for a better fit with another therapist. Fill out the form below if you would be interested in a free consult.

What is your style of therapy?

I do a mix of skills-focused and insight-focused therapy, but tend to lean more towards an insight-focused approach, believing clients often find their own tools and solutions once they understand their emotions, behaviors, and relationships better. I know that the therapy relationship is the most important element for success, and I believe clinicians should constantly be working on both addressing and using their own issues and humanity to help them intuitively work with clients on their shared humanity. The primary model informing my work is the Person of the Therapist model, which builds clinicians who make authentic, human connections with clients.

What is your work and educational background?

I have over 10 years of psychotherapy experience that spans a breadth of issues, including family and relationship issues, depression, grief, life transitions, self-improvement, social justice issues, and anxiety. I have worked with couples, families, and individuals of diverse socioeconomic, cultural, racial, sexuality, and gender backgrounds. My master’s degree in family therapy comes from Drexel University, and my bachelor’s of science degree in psychology from the College of William and Mary. I have extended training in Attachment Based Family Therapy and am specialized in the Person of the Therapist model. I am a professional member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), and a contributing member of the Pennsylvania Marriage and Family Therapy Chapter/Interest Group.

What is your supervision model and style?
My supervising mirrors my therapy style (see answer to FAQ question “What is your style of therapy?”, as well as the sections above on “Mary as an Individual Therapist” and “Mary as a Relational Therapist”), and my key foundational model is the Person of the Therapist model. Supervision with me will involve clinical case discussions that explore and develop not only the application of your clinical knowledge and skills, but also the ways in which your personal issues and humanity can both hinder and help your connection, assessment, and intervention with clients. Part of that humanity is our immersion in systems of privilege and oppression, and our supervision will also focus on identifying and addressing how those dynamics affect our clients and our relationships with them.
How much do your therapy/supervision services cost?

I am currently in private practice, and unfortunately do not take insurance. If you would like to submit a receipt to your insurance company for out of network coverage, we can determine what needs to go into that receipt for your insurance to reimburse you. My standard rate for therapy is $175/hour for individuals, and $250/hour for couples/families. For clients who would experience financial strain with those rates, I use a sliding scale, so feel free to contact me to see if we can work out a price that is manageable. For supervision, my rate is $120/hour for individual supervision, $90/hour each for dyad supervision, and $75/hour each for group supervision with 3 or more supervisees. I also provide a sliding scale for supervisees, so please contact me to see what fee arrangement we can come up with.